Self-Evaluation

So here I am…on my last week of vacation. I’m enjoying my time away from work. This is one of the first times I’ve taken leave and did not have a work laptop, BlackBerry, or work to review with me. It feels good. I was back in the ‘States and enjoying my family. However, and you know there’s always a ‘However’, I ran into a few friends from high school. Many many years have passed since high school and I can’t expect everyone to be the same but things seemed different. Maybe I expected more of a reconnection but it was kinda like, “Oh, hey. How have you been?” That’s it? We haven’t seen each other in years and I’m greeted with that! But…I understand. Our lives are so different now. We are no longer the people we used to be. We’ve grown…for the better and sometimes for the worst. But who are we to blame?

This trip back to the ‘States reminds me of a good friend. We did everything together. That was my boy. It was hard to tell a story without mentioning both of our names. If you read my ‘About’ page then you know that I had to leave my home town. My good friend was upset and hurt that I left. He blamed me for everything and I blamed him for not understanding. It also hurt me that I left but I was not growing like I should have and I needed to make changes. And that’s the point I’m trying to make. We grow…we need to make changes in our lives…and we need to be responsible adults. What do I mean by that? There are many times in our lives when issues arise and we are faced with a decision. We can either blame someone else and point fingers or we can evaluate the situation to find what role did we play in the conflict. It’s so easy to blame someone and say they did this or they did that…but are you innocent? I know I’m not. There were many times I did not want to accept that I was the major contributor to a disagreement. But I had to learn the hard way about self-evaluation. And what I’ve learned is that most of the time, the feeling of anger or dislike originated from within and was really directed towards myself. I was upset that I wasn’t doing or didn’t do something and decided to take it out on someone else. We’ve all made mistakes…did wrong…and blamed someone else. Take some time and conduct a self-evaluation and fine tune those behavioral issues that can make you a better person…seriously, DO IT!!! The example has been laid out for us long ago…
John 8: 1-7 King James Version (KJV)

1 Jesus went unto the mount of Olives.

2 And early in the morning he came again into the temple, and all the people came unto him; and he sat down, and taught them.

3 And the scribes and Pharisees brought unto him a woman taken in adultery; and when they had set her in the midst,

4 They say unto him, Master, this woman was taken in adultery, in the very act.

5 Now Moses in the law commanded us, that such should be stoned: but what sayest thou?

6 This they said, tempting him, that they might have to accuse him. But Jesus stooped down, and with his finger wrote on the ground, as though he heard them not.

7 So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.

…Self-evaluation